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Entries in twins (29)


Making Space for Twins - Should we get bunk beds or give them their own rooms?

Tween Twins Need Space

As we accept the fact that we officially have "tweenagers" we are accepting the fact that their room may just be too small for them. We do have two spare bedrooms, however, my home office is in one and the other is fairly small and used regularly by my mom when she visits.

I have thought about turning the smaller bedroom into my office and getting a futon for Grandma when she comes. Then the girls could each have one of the other two larger rooms. On the other hand, I'm not ready for all that furniture moving and buying. The idea of just getting them bunk beds is appealing. Plus, I found this really cool, modern looking bunk bed at Tesco direct and I'm wondering how much shipping would be.

Modern Bunk Beds

Certainly bunk beds would create more space to add a desk, a reading nook, or an extra bookcase for storage. On the other hand, they still need to share dressers and a closet for all those tween girl clothes!

Are They Ready to Separate?

Here's the issue with separate rooms. They have only ever known what it's like to share a room. For most of their life there has been another living, breathing, sometimes snoring, but always comforting presence right next to them when they go to sleep. I'm not so sure both of them are ready to fall alseep on their own.

They don't talk a lot or anything but still. I'm curious if having separate rooms would be a difficult transition for one of them in particular. She actually has said she does NOT want to 'sleep alone' while the other has expressed an interest in going to sleep away camp.

Polar opposites.

As usual.

What have you other twin parents done? If you HAVE the space, do you let them have their own rooms?


Disclosure: This post was provided by Tesco direct though all opinions are my own. Also, this whole bunk bed / separate room discussion is really and truly happening right now - mostly in my head but only because if I tell the girls we're moving on it (whatever direction) they will expect either new rooms or new beds tomorrow.


The Sisterhood

Tonight I was at a business networking event. I got to wear my big girl pants, talk a little shop, and drink a glass of wine. But the conversation that affected me the most was with one of the attendees who it turns out is in

The Sisterhood.

Oh how sweet it is when they play well together

Twin Moms Stick Together

We moms of twins, as much as we try to blend in, are different.

We have anxieties that only someone with 2 kids who are CONSTANTLY COMPARED can understand.

This woman has 11 year old twin girls.

As soon as she found out I have 8 year old twin girls she gave me

The Look.

The look that says, "I know what you are going through. I understand your fears. And you are right to be afraid. But we are survivors."

Yes, a look can say all that and more.

Because only a moms of twins (and possibly only a mom of twin girls who are about to embark on a trips through the Sea of Hormones) can understand the fear and anxiety that comes with knowing we'll have to manage

2 girls who are constantly compared BY others and By themselves

maturing at different stages

experiencing hormones, changes, drama...

together, and yet, alone.

As soon as I meet another Sister we are quick to bond.

We understand that we struggle to help our kids navigate because we weren't twins. We may have had siblings, we may have experienced comparisons, but there was a buffer in a difference of sex (I had a brother), age, or grade to ease the comparison.

We bond when we discuss the dominant twin and how that role can switch from time to time.

We trade stories of similarities, differences, separation.

We hold onto hope that they stay close, like Mary Kate and Ashley, rather than divided, like Cain and Able (who were not twins but the only reference of sibling rivalry I could come up with for now)

Then we hug each other goodbye knowing we have met someone who understands.


Fashion Friday - Twin Fashion Designers Behind Sachika 

How perfect for me, a mom of twins, to highlight a pair of designers who are - TWINS!

The Sashika Twins are identical twins that have split roles and created an very unique collection of dresses and more.

SACHIKA more wishes,happiness and fortune from cyril mahe on Vimeo.


I love some of the elements they use. Here are a few things from their Fall 2010 Collection

Now I'm on the hunt for more twin designers. Move over Mary-Kate and Ashley!



We cut it close on the first day of school but at least we eat well

Here's what I did this morning all before 8:00 am:

1. made chocolate chip pancakes

2. made bacon

3. made an egg casserole (for the annual neighborhood brunch)

4. Packed lunches including snack

With all the cooking I barely had time to take the traditional snuggle-up-to-your-sister-and-smile-even-though-I-just-yelled-at-you-for-changing-your-shoes-for-the-third-time photo:



But, they do look so cute don't they? Not matching but definitely twins at their best. And, they were excited.

So excited I could hardly get them to slow down enough for me to take this photo of the walk.


Phew! We didn't miss the line-up outside and we even found a few of our friends in class.

I can't wait to hear how it all went. And the goal for tomorrow? Less cooking, more snuggling.

How was your first day of school?


For more on back-to-school see

Fashion Friday: bold print backpacks and Chucks

Wisdom from the bottom of a mimosa


Looking for a little help for a local mom

Triplet cubs via ucumari on Flickr

Imagine being pregnant with triplets.

Now imagine being pregnant with triplets and having a toddler.

OK, now imagine being pregnant with triplets, having a toddler, and your husband dies.



Last month I read the story of Montgomery County Police Office, Hector Ayala's tragic death in a car wreck and I can't stop thinking about it. 

I remember being pregnant with twins and it was hard. I can't imagine what his wife is going through as she prepares to deliver their triplets.

I've never met her or the family but I am moved to help. I have considered having some kind of fundraiser but...

I think I'll start with writing about it here, raising awareness, and posting a link to where you can donate.

And if anyone else is moved, let me know and let's get something going.